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Love in 2020!

Movies...books...fantasies...we all want that perfect love story that we have always seen on screen, read about or have imagined. The perfect guy, the perfect girl, the perfect romance, the perfect wedding…a life full of beautiful sunrises, music, and roses. 

There is nothing wrong with romanticizing about all of these. If you have them in your life, you are extremely lucky. What I feel is wrong here is that we want all of these...but we don’t want to put in any effort in building the perfect stories. We want the perfect guy in our life, but we don’t want to put the effort into improving ourselves. The perfect guy is required and expected to accept and appreciate all of our imperfections! Is that fair to expect? We live in an instant world! We seem to fall in love too soon and fall out of it even sooner. 

Where are those eternal love stories? The love of Radha and Krishna that fought with the society, broke all rules...just to be in love with each other. Or for that matter, is there no more Meera in today’s world? The one who unconditionally loved and worshiped Krishna, in spite of knowing that she can never have him? You say they are mythologies and are not true? Maybe you are right. But the bigger question here is, have we forgotten to love unconditionally, without expecting anything in return? Has our emotion of love become all transactional now? As long as you can give me what I want, physically or emotionally, we are good; the day you are unable to do so, we both find a new partner. 


If you are calling me an idiot for living in the Tinder age and talking terribly old school, trust me I understand why you think so. But well, I was just getting tired of looking at the superficial love that I see all around me these days...the kind where falling in love and moving on...both seem to be taking the same amount of time that it took for Arjun Kapoor's Panipat to run out of the theaters ...technically less than a week! (I mean that just as a joke and intend no insult towards the actor or the movie).

 For me, I am a lover...I am a devotee. I do love and worship him. I love because it's the most beautiful emotion I have ever felt. My love doesn’t depend on whether and how much he loves me back. Yes...I am old fashioned! Yes...I am a lover...
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