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Moving on...

Life doesn't necessarily need to go as per our plans. And when those big plans crash bad, things can get pretty tough to deal with.

What I am writing today is nothing unique or being told for the first time. Its just my version of one of the world's most common problems of today's world...a heart-break!










A recent breakup had left me pretty shattered! When we get overly attached to someone, it gets difficult to imagine a life without their presence in it...well, that's pretty normal and that's pretty human! But whats important and what differs from people to people is how they deal with such situations.

For me, after I was stuck in a helpless situation, and after crossing all stages of breakup and finally reaching the "acceptance" stage, I knew I had to do something about it soon to not get into a severe state of depression. So, I tried a few things:

  • Switch to work.
    I always get workaholic when I need to deal with any of life's crisis situations! For me, this works better than alcohol. Work so hard that there is almost no time to think of anything else. Work till you are so tired and you crash the moment you hit your bed. 
  • Work on yourself.
    When we are in love, we often tend to become the person our lovers want us to be...forgetting what we really are or what we would like to be! Its often after a bad breakup that we get some time to give this a thought. I got to this state too. I started wondering around the different things I wanted to try on myself and what changes I wanted to see in me. I tried a lot of things which I was otherwise scared to experiment with. I got myself inked...I got my hair colored...I joined the gym and so on. Every one of these gave me an immense sense of achievement! I loved the changes I saw in the mirror.
  • Take a trip.
    I wanted to go on a solo trip for a while, but never did plan it. A heartbreak can be a real good motivator to make you do things you have been procrastinating for a while. I took a solo trip to Ladakh. Biking on the Himalayan off-routes for 10 days made me discover a whole new me. The totally carefree me that I found during this trip was definitely a happier and better version of the otherwise me who would give too much importance to people or society. 

Well, no breakups can ever be the right thing to happen in anyone's life...but since its a part of life, dealing with it the right way is definitely important.

Have I moved on?

Today, I can really say YES. Not that the thoughts and memories of the past doesn't hurt anymore...ofcourse they do...but I don't cry over them anymore.

And ya...not to forget, I don't intend to hold myself back from falling in love again or stop myself from experiencing those beautiful butterflies in stomach feelings! One thing I have learnt during this journey...there is no hard line of right and wrong. If something makes me happy, its got to be right...its okay if the world disagrees!

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